Real Talk on Divorce & Remarriage

Matthew 5 on Fornication Explained

Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

A key of understanding is that Jesus said the cause was “fornication” not “adultery”

He was referring to the old covenant law… like when Joseph thought Mary had “fornicated” because she was pregnant with Jesus while she was betrothed to Joseph.

In Hebrew culture, the engagement was part of the marriage, so in order to cancel the marriage, you needed divorce. Jesus was not teaching that you can remarry as long as adultery was involved. He was talking about a Jewish marriage being annulled because the wife lied about being a virgin.

Here’s the scripture about fornication that Yahusha (Jesus) referenced. It covers fornication discovered after the betrothal or marriage. Joseph might have wanted to divorce Mary privately because he didn’t want her to be stoned.

Deuteronomy 22: 13 If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, 14 and give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: 15 then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: 16 and the damsel’s father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; 17 and, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter’s virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city.

 

Matthew 19 on Hardness of Heart Explained

Matthew 19: He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Here’s the scripture Yahusha referrenced when he spoke of the “hardness of men’s hearts.” This was part of the ceremonial law added for transgression, not the original 10 Commandments.

Deuteronomy 24: 1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife.

Matthew was written to Jews and the author had the laws of Moses in mind. You will not see the fornication clause mentioned in Mark or Luke because those were directed to Gentiles that didn’t have the ceremonial laws of Deuteronomy 22 and Deuteronomy 24 in their marriages.

That’s why Jesus said: “From the beginning it was not so.” Jesus showed us how God sees remarriage as adultery while the spouse is alive. Jesus, being “That Prophet”, was able to supersede the laws added for transgression and hardness of heart, and bring His kingdom back to the laws of Creation.

 

Jesus’ Kingdom Redefines Adultery back to Creation Law

We don’t practice Jewish betrothal laws today. Those are the ceremonial laws that Moses added for transgression. This is how we know that the “fornication exception” doesn’t exist in the Kingdom of Jesus.

That’s why there’s no “fornication exception” in Luke.

Luke 16:18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

There’s also no fornication exception in Mark because those transgression laws have expired. Jesus redefined adultery.

Mark 10: 10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

the fruit of adultery, divorce, polygamy 

You Don’t have to argue with the ignorant about what the bible says on adultery, divorce, polygamy, etc…
All you have to do is look at the intergenerational results and understand Gods laws of seed time & harvest. You can see the unintended results of multiple wives & adultery in Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon, Genesis 6, Malachi 2, etc… 

God does not necessarily spell everything out in the Bible. Sometimes he just tells a story and displays the results of peoples actions contrasted With His commands. You have to read the Bible with an open heart and an honest heart to understand his ways. 
The harvest of adultery & polygamy is intergenerational violence and iniquity. Cry out to the Lord for Mercy and He will answer.
Exodus 20

5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;
6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.

Kim Davis Supporters: WE NEED A BETTER STAND!

Let me make this as clear and as gentle as possible: I support ‪#‎KimDavis‬. I believe she was selected and bullied because that’s what the homosexual agenda is about. If you saw your little sister being attacked or in a fight, you go help her no matter if she’s right or wrong.

I believe the body of Christ should support her especially if she quits her job. The Federal.gov can prosecute Kim Davis but they don’t prosecute Planned Parenthood for selling murdered baby body parts? That’s shameful. This nation is definitely coming under judgement.

BUT I also believe that judgment BEGINS in the House of God!
It’s not a coincidence that remarriage is the issue the gays bring up with this. When the Body gets just as passionate about divorce & remarriage as we are about gay marriage, that’s when we’ll see some change. I’m not talking about having a perfect life before we get into Christ. I’m talking about WE BARELY TEACH OR PREACH WHAT JESUS CHRIST SAID ABOUT MARRIAGE TO PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADY IN CHRIST!

Mark 10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

Yes we need to take a stand but we also need to take a stand against our own sins. Where are the Christian county clerk who will refuse to do marriage licenses for re-marriages whenever the original spouse is still alive? None, because 99% of preachers won’t even teach the truth. Yet that’s what Jesus emphasized when He taught about marriage. Perhaps Jesus knew that remarriage and adultery is the first step to all the other sexual pathologies we worry about?

Its not Kim Davis and the Politicians that need to take a stand to bring revival to this nation. Revivals don’t happen under government supervision, they happen when preachers get Gods vision.

We have to be able to discern time and judgement and be willing to Check Ourselves First and remove the log from our eye before getting the speck out of others eyes. When our obedience is fulfilled, God can then revenge all disobedience. When will we figure this out?

Sex is a Physical AND a Spiritual act

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Men Leaving your father – Financial independence.
Men Leaving your mother – Emotional independence.
After that a man can cleave to his wife – marriage covenant: make a commitment to stick together.
After that you become one flesh – sex which can produce children.

Men: It’s the simple things that make your life go well. Doing these things out of order can create trouble you don’t need.

Women: you need to understand this so you can understand what kind of man is ready for your time.

Sex is a physical AND spiritual act… If you think it’s just physical, you will ruin your life with fornication and adultery, and you STILL won’t be satisfied.

Sex is NOT a need, nor is it a right. Sex is a privilege that God gives to those that keep his spiritual covenant love in marriage.

8 Drastic options better than divorce, which is not an option

8 drastic options better than divorce

1. – prayer and fasting for a new heart in your spouse or in yourself
2. – prayer and the Word together
3. – counseling together with father & mother in law (if they are wise)
4. – counseling together with father and mother (if they are wise)
5. – learning the Word from a teacher of the Word together or individually
6. – calling the police if there is abuse (if your spouse is a criminal, please call the police)
7. – getting advice from a wise counselor together
8. – separation for an agreed upon period of time

Jesus said that the law of Moses allowed divorce for the hardness of their hearts. So wherever you see rampant hard heartedness, you will see divorce. Jesus taught “from the beginning” aka god’s original purpose, and he taught a doctrine that is higher than the law of Moses.

Divorce or Divorce & Remarriage is not an option if you want to please God. Gods mercy is new every morning so there’s no need for condemnation, but whatever has happened in the past: just walk in truth today. God can forgive and cleanse your past. You cannot change your past, but you definitely have a drastic need to use repentance and the grace of God to change your future. Be willing to do whatever God tells you to do.

Mark 10
“And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judaea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again.
And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.
And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.
And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.
And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.”

Why does it say in Matthew “except for fornication?”

Because Matthew was written specifically for the Jewish audience. In the Law of Moses, a marriage could be ended a day after the wedding night if it was found out that the woman was not a virgin BEFORE she got married. (Fornication is sex BEFORE marriage, adultery is sex outside of marriage, after marriage). Mark and Luke do not contain this caveat, because it was written to Gentile believers.

Update: I put this teaching out ony blog back in April. I did not realize how important this doctrine was until I talked to a friend a couple days ago from who had a similar teaching on his blog. We live in two different states, and have different circles. We both got really strange responses to our teachings about divorce.

Do you realize that there are people who search the Internet for God’s teaching on divorce, and then make up stories and send them questions to put doubt and fear into the people that teach it? What could be their motivation for doing this? Maybe because satan realizes that God’s teaching on covenant love is the key to revival?

Celebrity Christianity? A lesson on Real Repentance, Fruit, and Discipleship

When a “celebrity” gets saved its all about what God can do through their “influence” and “platform”… and somehow all Jesus needs is rich talented people to endorse him.

When they are un-discipled, unfruitful, divorce their spouse, poison the people of God with their compromise and return back to the vomit they came from… all you hear is the wicked gloating that Jesus wasn’t real in the first place.

Jesus did not say: “When the talented celebrity Christian’s brand is lifted up, their PR and marketing skills will draw all men unto me.”

God doesn’t need our platforms, he needs our obedience. Real repentance has real fruit. We don’t need celebrities to endorse Christ. We need humble people to submit to the obedience of Christ.

Any wolf can cover their fangs and put a sheep mask back on. Look what Zacchaeus did. Then look what these fake celebrities do. It’s not real repentance. Real repentance has the fruits of humility, immediately and in the long-term.

Luke 19

And when they saw it, they all murmured, saying, That he was gone to be guest with a man that is a sinner.

And Zacchaeus stood, and said unto the Lord: Behold, Lord, the half of my goods I give to the poor; and if I have taken any thing from any man by false accusation, I restore him fourfold.

And Jesus said unto him, This day is salvation come to this house, for so much as he also is a son of Abraham.

10 For the Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost.

3 forms of False Worship and Their Results in the Culture

3 forms of false worship and Their Results in the Culture

Idolatry – Spiritual Adultery – Leads to Natural Adultery
Revelations 2

Apostasy – Spiritual Divorce from Truth – leads to Natural Divorce
Research Malachi 2

Iniquity – Spiritual Prostitution (performance instead of discipleship) & Self-Worship – leads to unfruitfulness & natural homosexuality ( no children produced)
Research Ezekiel 28 Daniel 11 Romans 1