TRUTH OR LIE THURSDAYS 6.28.2018

It’s TRUTH OR LIE THURSDAY!

Inbox me with your questions, doubts, beefs, unbeliefs with Christianity, Jesus, and the Bible… I won’t put you on blast, but I will do my best to research and give you a good answer.

Jesus is looking for those that NEED healing and freedom! It’s okay to ask questions!!!!!

 

DOMESTIC ABUSE VS DOMESTIC FRUSTRATION?

 

Q: I do not wish to reside with my husband. As recent as tonight, he attempted to push me & his aunt had to tell him to stop. He told me that I am “making him frustrated & when that happens, [I]won’t like it.” My priority is not this marriage right now. I am working to get my kids back.

 

Sometimes i try to have an interaction &  he refuses to respond to me. This is my main issue with him. He does not communicate well, at all.

 

He will boil it all down to me just not listening, but there are clear examples of otherwise.

 

 

A: Him ignoring you is not right at all. Him being physical with you is not right at all, it’s wrong.

 

I will not make excuses for abusive behavior. However I would like to explain to you from a man’s perspective what is happening. I want to help communication go better between men and women. Men generally cannot communicate as well as women, especially when their personalities are different.

 

In his mind he is simply trying to reestablish order. In his mind the marriage has to be first for the children to have a godly family. So his one track mind says “first” lets fix our marriage relationship. You say the relationship doesn’t matter, do what I’m asking you to do instead. To him this is out of order.

 

Another aspect of “order” is who obeys first, him or you. As the head of the wife, the wife obeys the husband first, then makes her request known to her husband. This is godly order, just like if you had a job, you do what your boss says first, then you ask for what you want after you obey. Men need order in order to feel respected, and when there is disorder they feel manipulated and frustrated.

 

This is not an excuse for his evil behavior, but it is the cause for his response. He needs to learn how to respond better. However, you also need to learn how to act in respect for the order that is needed for a healthy relationship. Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and when you have a marriage covenant before God, you can no longer do things how you want to do them.

 

For the man, it’s always best to be tender and gentle, and never avoid communication with your wife. I’ve learned that women see conflict as a form of communication, whereas men see conflict as a precursor to violence. So we tend to avoid conflict with our wives because we don’t want to get violent, but our wives need us to keep communicating through it and teaching them what they need to know.

 

 

BABY SITTING FOR ABSENTEES?

Q: You all know that “Nephew” is in mine and my mom’s care 90% of the time. He/we have never met his father. His mom is bi and live with her female lover, she does not lead a healthy life in ANY way. However when there’s a Halloween or Christmas…. I lose my say/rights to the few other ppl the 10 percenters. 🤣 Now it’s costume time, party time, door to door time. Very very frustrating; but these are his parents and grand parents. Also seems like the enemy uses “Nephew” to rub it in to me that he’s dressing up and going to a party. What to do?

A: That sounds like a tough situation for “Nephew”. We have been in a similar situation. I think whenever you get an opportunity to take care of a child whose parents are still alive, its a chance to do two things: 1. teach them how to obey God and walk with Christ. 2. Teach them to honor, obey, love, and pray for their parents. Thats no matter how evil their parents are. Just count it as a seed, not as an opportunity to come between them & their parents. Im not saying thats what you are doing. But when people try to do that even for good reasons, it will always backfire because it goes against Gods commands. So when you have Nasir, just count it as a seed sown and rejoice! When his parents come back let him go and be happy that he is with his parents no matter how evil they are. Then just pray that the seed you sowed in him would have an opportunity to bear fruit!

 

 

CAN I LEAVE MY WIFE TO FOLLOW JESUS?

Q: Can a married man leave his wife to follow Jesus? I believe he can. Would it be a sin if he found comfort and companionship with another woman? No sexual activity of course.

A: 1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Jesus would never ask a man to break covenant with his wife, because that is spiritual violence and covenant breaking. God is a covenant keeper. We have to understand God’s character if we are claiming to walk with Him.

2 Timothy 3: 1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

These character qualities “trucebreakers” “without natural affection” “lovers of their own selves” “unthankful” “traitors” are all characteristics of evil men in the last days that cannot maintain covenant relationships and choose to please themselves instead of sacrifice themselves. This cannot be done in the name of Jesus, because that would be taking His name in vain.

Now if you are talking about short term missions… It depends on how long the mission is. I travel for work but it’s not excessive. Some men join the army and have to leave their families, it’s very unfortunate. But they provide for their families. As far as ministry for Jesus is concerned, I highly doubt Jesus would call a man to leave his family. Not His character, no biblical example. Paul was single for this reason, so he could travel more. As far as the other traveling apostles, they “lead about” their wives, they didn’t leave them. 1 Corinthians 9:5 Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?

As far as developing one-on-one companionship relationships with other women… that’s a no-no. Adultery can be emotional as well as physical.

 

DO I NEED SOME SHAME IN MY GAME?

Q: Is SHAME AN integral stage of repentance from sin?

 

Definition of SHAME

 

shame

SHām/

noun

a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.

 

 

Romans 6:20

20 For when ye were the servants of sin, ye were free from righteousness.

21 What fruit had ye then in those things whereof ye are now ashamed? for the end of those things is death.

 

Definition of SORROW

 

Bring forth the FRUITS of Repentance. If there’s no Godly Sorrow, there’s really no Repentance to Salvation.

 

2 Corinthians 7:10 For godly SORROW worketh REPENTANCE to SALVATION not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.11 For behold this selfsame thing, that ye sorrowed after a godly sort, what carefulness it wrought in you, yea, what clearing of yourselves, yea, what indignation, yea, what fear, yea, what vehement desire, yea, what zeal, yea, what revenge! In all things ye have approved yourselves to be clear in this matter.

 

What are the FRUITS of Repentance?

 

Godly Sorrow – diligence (working consistently and hastily to change), clearing of yourself (explanation, verbal or written), indignation (personal irritation at your sin), fear (fearfulness of sin), vehement desire (passion to change), zeal (emotionally passionate about change), vindication (revenge on the sin you committed).

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