Father to the Fatherless: RESTORE YOUR 😁 CONFIDENCE AND 🥰SELF-WORTH!

Malachi 4: Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.


Fathers, the number one way to turn your heart to your children is to love their mother.

Their mother is half-of them… so by loving their mother you give them the opportunity to see themselves as worthy of love. You give them self-worth.

It’s common knowledge that when parents are divorced, the children are more tempted towards violence and sexual sin.

Multiple examples in Genesis show that sexual sin leads to more violence and more sexual sin in the next generations. The first person in the Scriptures with two wives was the 2nd murderer in Scripture:

Genesis 4: 23 And Lamech said unto his wives, Adah and Zillah, Hear my voice; ye wives of Lamech, hearken unto my speech: for I have slain a man to my wounding, and a young man to my hurt.

That’s how we know that Genesis 6:1-4 is not about fallen angels – it’s about fallen HUMANS with unbridled lust and violence, which creates fatherless children with desires to be greater than others (giants/superstars). Then generation after generation continues in violence and in lust (see the link to Fallen Angels or Sexual Sin).


If I reject my children’s mother, I’m partly rejecting them. This could causes them to reject any fatherly wisdom from me… it can also cause them to lack confidence in who they are and how they are made.

Take basketball for example: if I teach my sons and correct them on how to shoot or dribble, do they see it as competition or as me helping them be better? They are not threatened by my correction because I am their father. They know I’m trying to help them be better than me one day.

But if I reject them, they will feel threatened, and they will learn to respond to threats with violence. Simple and fun things in life can turn into brutal competition and wrath when there are deficiencies in our souls. If you’ve ever seen guys cuss each other out at a basketball court you know what I’m talking about.

Take my daughters for example. If I tell them they are beautiful, do they take it as if I’m lusting after them? No, because they know that I love their mother. I am complementing them in purity, therefore their beauty is pure.

But if I reject them, they will have a desire to be lusted after, which will lead them into vanity and seduction. Their beauty will be weaponized against others and eventually against their own selves. We see the results of this every day in modern culture.

Fatherlessness causes us to constantly feel competition and rejection – even where there is none… we must be healed by our Father in Heaven!

Sometimes our iniquities come from a lack of self-worth from our fathers:

  • Our anger and wrath can come from seeing correction as a form of competition or rejection instead of love.
  • Our pride and vanity is our way of overcompensating for a lack of confidence.
  • Our lust and gluttony is overcompensating for the way we devalue our bodies.
  • Our fear and doubt can come from how we don’t think we deserve protection or reward.
  • Our rebellion and bitterness can come from feeling like we are on our own with no one to provide for us.

We tend to use these iniquities to overcompensate for the holes we have in our heart.

We choose our deceptions according to our deficiencies. INIQUITY (in-equity) is the opposite of INTEGRITY.

If you have a low self-worth or confidence because of your father’s separation from your mother, please know that you have a Father in heaven who loves you!

You are not deficient in anything! Your Father in heaven has given you everything you need and He will never leave you. You are complete in Him!

Jesus came to reveal ABBA Father to the Jews that thought they already knew Him – but they didn’t. Once you have seen Jesus, you have seen the Father!

The Father and the Son have an unbroken covenant, and when you join into covenant Christ, you can be made whole, full, complete, mature, with INTEGRITY, and with no deficiencies.

Say it with me: “I am NOT deficient in ANYTHING, I am COMPLETE in Christ!

Speak it. Believe it. Do it! You will be made WHOLE!

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