Q: So what are grounds for divorce?

A: The first grounds for divorce (if you were living in the Biblical Israelite Nation) is that if your spouse was found fornicating in the betrothal (engagement) period. Marrying a virgin was important to men in that nation.

So if you were engaged to a wife and she lied about being a virgin, you could divorce her on the wedding night. This is found in Deuteronomy 22:13-17, Matthew 5:32, and the example is found in Matthew 1 with Mary and Joseph.

Joseph almost divorced Mary for this reason, but an angel appeared to him to assure him that Mary was not a fornicator.

The second grounds for divorce is if “some uncleanness” is found in her. The Hebrew says “dabar erwah” which means “commandment of nakedness.” The “commandment of nakedness” is speaking about incest, aka “uncovering the nakedness” of a family member.

This means if you married someone and you found out later that it was your cousin, you could divorce her. But you couldn’t take her back if her 2nd husband later divorced her for “hardness of heart” (aka I hate her) and gave her a big cash settlement.

Other than those two things (engagement fornication and uncleanness aka incest), only a hard heart (I hate him/I hate her) is grounds for divorce, see Mark 10:5.

Unforgiveness and Hatred is the grounds for most divorces of today.

The problem is: if you don’t forgive others from their sins, God won’t forgive you of your sins.

Separation is an option if there is abuse or abandonment (1 Cor. 7:15).

However in God’s eyes the covenant is not over until physical death.

Separation is not a release from the covenant. Separation means “remain unmarried, or be reconciled”. See 1 Cor 7:11. Remarriage is still adultery in God’s eyes.

A hard heart (unforgiveness and hatred) is not a good thing.

Abuse and abandonment is not a good thing either. These are sad situations – but adultery is worse.

The 7th commandment of Yahuah is: Thou shalt not commit adultery.

No one has to stay in abuse, but they do have to remain unmarried if separated from their covenant.

1 Cor. 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

The Kingdom allows for separation but it does not allow for remarriage, not until the original spouse is dead (Romans 7:2, 1 Cor 7:39).

Romans 7: 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

1 Corinthians 7: 39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

However the gospel of Christ is still powerful. Everyone has a right to repent and live free from sin! Beautiful grace.

Unwanted celibacy isn’t fun. But believers don’t live for sexual pleasure, we live for Yah by the grace of Yahusha.

Believers that choose to live celibate for the Lord due to unfortunate circumstances can greatly accelerate revival, increase the spread the gospel, or hasten the coming of Messiah by continuing in holiness, prayer, and fasting. Sometimes our failure can be an opportunity to be used to advance the kingdom.



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